Info about Dating
Rules on Dating a Woman for Marriage – Part I
To my mind, women should be dated with the primary aim of marriage. It is wrong for a married man to start a love affair with a pretty gal simply with the object of having sex with her. Monogamous marriage--in word as well as in deed is the best form of marriage because it has the blessings of continuous love, faithfulness, goodwill and mutual obedience.
The man should see that the woman he is dating is more or less of the same social status as he is. If a man marries much above his rank, he may begin to suffer from an inferiority complex, whereas if he marries a girl from a very poor and uncultured family, he may hesitate in mixing freely with the relatives of his wife and the girl in her turn may experience difficulty in adjusting herself to her new status as the wife of a man who is far removed from her in the social scale. In the same way marriages of man and woman of different races, communities and religions present many difficulties, the magnitude of which many lovers do not seem to realize during courtship.
If the man does not find it easy to approach the girl of his choice directly, it is advisable for him to get friendly with the girl's brother, if she has one, and oblige him in all sorts of ways. When the brother has been completely won over, the man should honestly and without beating around the bush confess to him his secret love for his sister. In this way the brother will be a great help not only in introducing his sister to him, but will also continue to be his firm supporter in case there are objections to this marriage from the family at a later date.
All women like to receive small presents from their men. Hence the man must be liberal in this respect and offer her from time to time things like flowers, attractively designed articles of china clay, combs, hair brushes, toilet accessories, rings, necklaces, articles of dress and whatever else she desires to possess. He should offer these presents to her in secret as well as in the presence of relatives just as the opportunity occurs, so that the latter may be equally pleased, and come to know of the young man’s intentions. These presents need not necessarily be expensive for in giving and receiving gifts the important thing is the thought and not the value of the gifts in terms of money.
What the Man Should Do and Not Do
The English translation of Kama Sutra--the Hindu Art of Love--says that physical contact is most essential. Physical contact is best begun with the feet. While sitting close to the woman, the man should press her foot--presumably accidentally. If there is no objection from her side, he should follow this by pressing her lower limbs cautiously from the foot upwards. From then on he should touch her body with his--still according to Kama Sutra--whenever the chance arises. Now, of course, this contact should be deliberate since the intimacy has increased and there is no longer any need for pretension. Such touches should be gradually transformed into warm and prolonged embraces ... that is, with each other's consent.
During the entire period of dating, the man should not be unduly passionate. A woman is slow to catch speed when being wooed, and in any case she does not wish to believe that her fiancée loves her just for the sake of her sexual possessions. Above all, the man must not force sexual contact upon the girl he loves. It is not worth it considering the dangers of pregnancy before marriage and the resulting mental shock this would cause her.
The man should make himself as agreeable to the girl as he possibly can. He should also go to her neatly dressed and be very interesting in his conversation so that she may be tempted to remain with him for a longer period. He should amuse her with various diversions appropriate to their age, and invite her frequently to picnics, movies, musical performances or concerts, restaurants, car drives, and such other pastimes as are available in his town.
The man should not talk too much about his other girl friends because females are jealous and suspicious individuals. Excessive praise about one's own sisters and mother is also better avoided for the same reasons.
A man should not persevere with a girl if she is so interested in some other man that she does not care for anybody else, particularly if her present fiancé has far better qualities than him.